Her approach is holistic in the truest sense of the word, I am looking at my mind, body and spirit and in particular the connection of all three to finally and truly eal my past. One or another aspects of that trinity have been missing in my previous attempts which is what led me to her door. With Pamela I am working on removing the metaphorical “armor” that once may have served me well but now imprisons me. I believe I carry the pain of my past not only with me but “in me”…in my very being. I neither understood that or knew what to do about it and then I found Pamela and she knew exactly what I was talking about it and how to help. Being understood-being really heard-is healing in itself. The trust we have created and the faith I have in her is integral to the success of the process. She is present. She is empathetic. She is safe. She is all things you need someone to be to do the work you need to do on yourself; with their guidance, their wisdom and their help but without their imprint on what you are doing or who you are. I have recommended several friends to her all of whom have been very happy and are benefitting enormously from the partnership.
I generally do not think there is a higher purpose in life than to figure out what your calling is and do it to the best of your ability to the benefit of your fellow human beings and therefore also yourself-this is Pamela’s calling and she is good at it. Very good. She is exceptional.
I came to her very disconnected and slowly I am making connections with my authentic self. Not the self I created or the one the world turned me into or expects me to be. It is not easy and it is not fast. And nothing I have ever achieved and is worth having in my life has ever come to me easy or fast. Pamela has the patience and the stamina to know that quick fixes do not work. I am working with her in a very different way to undo the years of “quick fixes” I have tried. I am changing. Growing. Evolving. Unfolding. Taking risks. Opening myself up. Gaining awareness. I am feeling.
I always think of the Anais Nin quote; “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more than the risk it took to bloom”. It describes my time with her so perfectly. I came to her in pain and no longer wanting to be. Therapy with her has given me a deeper understanding of that pain and an awareness of it and what I used to do to try and solve it or avoid it. I can feel myself letting go of old behaviors like losing my temper and going to anger as a deflection for the sadness or hurt I feel. Or did not previously acknowledge I felt. Or even actually feel it! I would like to think I am a better mother, wife, daughter, friend (human being) because of the work I am doing with Pamela.”
~ F.C. Homemaker and Mother, Ft. Lauderdale